Why Setting Boundaries is SO Hard for Empaths (and How to Get Some!)

Have you ever been told that you are "being mean" or "selfish" (or worse) when you finally decide that you are going to tell someone "no" who has been constantly draining your energy?

Or when you've decided that you no longer want someone's negative or toxic energy in your life?

Or when you decide that, for once, you are going to take care of yourself and NOT save someone who won't save themselves (for the 100th time)?

I have been there, done that - got a closet full of T-shirts to prove it. :) If you are an empath, I bet you do, too.

It's so freaking exhausting being an empath and having everyone want to take advantage of the fact that you care and that you WANT to help anyone and everything.

To make it worse, we often believe that because we are nice, kind people that setting boundaries IS mean or selfish, when it's truly not.

Everyone deserves to say that they simply have no more to give, or that they cannot help right then. If you don't, you will absolutely drain yourself of every drop of energy and life and maybe even money you've got to save people that will not save themselves.

It's time to stop believing everything you've been told about you having to ALWAYS be there to constantly for anything anyone could possibly need. It's time to understand how to feel the discomfort of putting up a healthy boundary, and to put it up anyway.

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Empath Tip #3: You are allowed to take care of yourself.

One thing I talk about a lot is what I call "hyper-responsibility syndrome," and it is something exclusive to empaths.

What's hyper-responsiblity syndrome, you ask?

Well, it's that sense that you are personally responsible for not only every bad thing that could every happen in the world, but that you are also responsible for fixing every bad thing in the world, and that you always have to be alert that some bad thing MIGHT happen at some point in the future that you might need to do something about because, if you don't you'll be responsible for not seeing that bad thing coming and not doing anything to stop it.

Whew.

It's a manic cycle that comes from the fact that we really do feel everyone else's pain, and we really do want to help heal that pain. Because we feel it as our own, it can be very hard to know where we end and the other person begins.

Add to that the fact that many empaths are raised in families with narcissists (who are more than happy to tell us that everything is our fault and that we must be hyper-aware of their needs, lest they are upset - which would be our fault), and it's very hard for an empath to know when to put things down and how to take care of yourself.

I'm here to tell you that taking that time to look your hyper-responsibility syndrome in the face and start to put tools in place to create better boundaries is hard work, but it is work worth doing.

YOU are not responsible for the pain in the universe, even if you can feel it all. YOU are not the only one that can fix someone else's problems (and sometimes, as painful as it is, it's best they fix them themselves).

You deserve having some energy for yourself. Take the time to care about you.

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Being sensitive is strong. Own that you are an empathic badass.

There isn't an empath that doesn't bear the scars of the many horrible things we've been called. Of course, because we truly DO feel everything and we truly DO take everything to heart, this can impact us at such a deep level that we take their perspective on who we are as truth. Because of that, we try to hide the depth of our feelings, and we shove the pain we are sensing deep down within. And, we often get sick from this - powerful emotions have a tendency to make us sick if we try to deny them after all.

It's time to stop feeling shame because you feel so much. It's time to stop feeling like you are weak because you care.

The weak ones are those calling you names, because they DON'T feel all that you are feeling. They walk around NOT having to carry the worries and pain and emotions and anxieties of the whole world. They get to NOT feel a constant need to DO something to stop the pain that others are feeling.

Frankly, they've got it pretty freaking easy.

You, on the other hand, carry it all. Feel it all. Look suffering right in it's face and decide that you will do something to help. You care more about others than you do yourself. You don't walk away, because you can't, and, even if you could, you wouldn't.

You are part of the solution. You carry this huge emotional burden and you keep on working to make things better.

That makes you stronger than anyone who called you names.

You are an empathic badass. Own it. Live it.

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I always knew I was different in how deeply I felt emotions. I can remember being in history class in 6th grade, and being shown video from concentration camps in Germany in World War II. Like many of my friends, I felt physically sick watching these. But I couldn't shake it after; every time I closed my eyes for weeks, all I saw were those images and felt the fear and desperation and pain that those people had felt. I had nightmares for months after, over and over thinking and feeling all the emotions of what I had seen.

Most of my friends were certainly affected, but only while they were watching the video and just thereafter. They were able to see it in the context of history and the importance not repeating truly horrific things, but they didn't actually have those people's suffering in their souls; they didn't feel that suffering in their own bodies nor have their hearts ache with their pain.

I could not figure out why others weren't as impacted as I was.

They didn't understand why I was tortured by it, carrying it with me all day for weeks. The camps may have been many years before I was born, but I felt the suffering as if it was happening right then.

If you are an empath, you know exactly what I am talking about. You can't just see suffering and not feel it. You can't feel it and not want to do something about it. And you can't just put it down.

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