Don't dim your light just because it's shining in someone's eyes. ✨

Have you ever dimmed your light or acted like you were less than, simply to not make someone feel bad?

I have.

My entire life is an example of this.

I’m not doing it anymore, and I challenge you to step up and shine with me.

It’s destructive. It’s a survival tactic learned from old trauma.

And it robs the world of your gifts.

And the world NEEDS your gifts.

I mean, why would you have them if you weren’t supposed to use them?? 🤔

To step up and shine, first - take a look at who in your life makes you feel like you shouldn’t be proud of yourself?

Who makes you feel like you need to shrink so THEY don’t feel insecure?

And then, compare that to how you feel when someone is better than you at something.

Are you jealous?

Or are you inspired?

Do you want to work harder to be more like that person or gain that skill? 🔥

I bet you are the latter.

If someone is jealous of you, it’s on them.

If someone is insecure because of who you are, it’s on them.

If someone needs to you to be less than so that they feel more, it’s on them.

If you’ve got someone in your life that is jealous, insecure, and wants you to be less than, then yeah, be less with them…

Spend LESS time with them.

Spend LESS energy on them.

Spend LESS mental power worrying about what they think.

Or, frankly, show them the door.

How many more people could you serve with who you truly are if you had less of that?

Does this message hit home? Tell me about it in the comments.

Fellow empath, tell me what you are amazing at. I know the list is long - longer than you ever realized.

I’ll go first:

🌟I am amazing at translating the message behind pain or disease and putting people on the path to healing their bodies, minds, and lives.

🌟I am amazing at pinpointing exactly which underlying beliefs are causing the problems.

🌟I am amazing at showing people precisely how to make massive shifts.

🌟I am amazing at supporting that transformation.

If you’d like that kind from-your-soul healing, I invite you to join my program, Body Language: Deciphering Your Body’s Clues so You Can Heal.

I get messages daily from members that tell me, “You have changed my entire life.” ✨

I’d love that transformation for you, too.

Setting healthy boundaries for empaths - why it's so freaking hard!

Do you find it very hard to disconnect from someone you love who is draining you?

Or to say "no" when you cannot do something, but you sense the other person's need?

Or to shut down from everything you've been feeling all day and be able to rest at night?

If so, you are like most empaths - you have a hard time having healthy boundaries.

For most of us, we've been taught that boundaries are a bad thing. In fact, if you had narcissists in your life that wanted to take all your energy and have you always ready to help them, they likely called you "selfish," "conceited," or worse when you tried to establish a healthy boundary with them.

If that happened, you likely internalized that, and now associate "healthy boundary" with "I am a selfish, horrible person for even considering such a thing."

It's time to undo that damage right now.

A boundary is simply a line drawn that indicates what is okay with you and what's not okay with you.

And, for an empath, a boundary is also "I am willing to take on this much energy from you, but I will not take that energy from you."

If you want to see why setting boundaries is so hard for us as empaths - and learn how to start setting them without feeling awful - check out my video below.

You can do this. You deserve to have healthy boundaries. You deserve to decide when you take on other's energy, pain, or issues, and when you don't want to do that.

It's not selfish. It's healthy.

Hyper-responsiblity syndrome: when an empath thinks everything is theirs to fix

Comment with a ❤️ you can't go to sleep some nights because every time you close your eyes you are imagining people in pain who you can't help.

Or if you say "I'm sorry" 1,000 times a day for every little thing, not because you actually did anything to apologize for, but because it's such a habit to think that you somehow should have seen someone's need coming and psychically fixed it before it ever became an issue.

Or if you simply don't know how to stop helping, because you feel like if you don't help, who will?

All of these experiences are common for empaths, and, combined, they are what I call "hyper-responsibility syndrome."

Because we feel the world's needs and pain and emotions all. the. time, we also want to help heal those needs and pain all. the. time.

We don't put it down. We don't know how to put it down. We just know that someone is in pain and we need to stop it, not only to help that person, but also to make the pain we are feeling from them stop.

On top of that, many empaths are raised in narcissistic families, where your sensitivity and kindness was used to help serve the needs of the narcissist, particularly if he or she had a victim mentality.

For instance, if you had a parent that was always unwell or depressed (or pretended to be to get people to do things he or she wanted), you could feel that. As a kid, we all want our parents to be happy, so you likely tried your best to make that parent happy.

And, when you couldn't succeed, you took that on as your failing.

Fast forward, and your inner child still feels like somehow you should make everyone in the whole world okay, and, if you can't, it's your failing.

That's hyper-responsibility syndrome, and it's exhausting.

Let me help you finally put all that burden down. 💕

Check out my Empath Institute, designed to help give you all the tools, coaching, and resources to finally go from exhausted to empowered!

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Becoming an Aware Empath: Trusting (and Strengthening!) Your Empathic Abilities

Are you an unaware empath?

Yeah, I used to be, too. It’s more than a little overwhelming.

If you an an unaware empath, you will experience these things:

1. Getting headaches and stomachaches, but only around certain people.

2. Feeling overwhelmed in crowds, with no particular reason.

3. Suddenly having your mood change (for instance, suddenly feeling very “on edge” or angry, when you were perfectly happy, and there is no reason for that change in you).

4. Having certain symptoms or even illnesses, but only around a particular person.

5. Feeling very anxious and overly alert in public transportation situations

This can make you feel like you are crazy (you aren’t!).

I even went to a therapist many, many years ago and was trying to explain all of these things to her. She diagnosed me with bipolar disease.

I am the least bipolar person you will ever meet, but that was her answer for all that I was explaining. Thank goodness I had enough self-esteem and sense to walk out of there and refuse that diagnosis.*

I’ve worked with SO many empaths that have had similar things happen - that were told they had some mental illness, when, in fact, what they have is a finely-tuned emotional and energetic system that is absorbing everything from everyone around them all the time.

And they can’t control it.

This is why I developed by 4 A’s of Awareness process for empaths!

When you are able to understand this simple process of becoming aware of whose emotion you are feeling and then knowing if (and how) you need to act on it, you will be so much more aware and in control of you empath abilities!!

Want more tools and resources like this? Sign up for my Empath Institute today!