Your expectations affect the reality you get.

Add this to the "we should be taught this in school" file:

Many years ago, scientists were trying to determine whether a photo - a bit of light - was wave (energy) or particle (solid).

This seemed pretty straightforward; after all, light certainly seems like it's just energy.

So, they did this now-famous double-slit experiment, which shined light through two small slits to see if there was a wave pattern or whether they lined up and bounced around like solid particles would.

They turned on their particle detector, and the photons lined up and bounced around like solid matter.

When they turned their particle detector off, the photons instantly created an interference pattern, distinctive of being waves.

It was shocking, to say the least. Either particles were psychic, knowing when the scientists were turning the detector on and off, or the photons were changing to show what the scientists expected to see.

This created the truly famous theory, "to observe is to disturb," which basically means that the act of observing reality impacts the reality you get.

Taken to the level of our lives, this means that our minds, which are filled with conscious and unconscious expectations of the life we believe we deserve, is impacting the way that the particles in our lives line up to create the reality we get.

Your mind is your life detector. It's important to make sure that what you want in life and what you expect to get are the same.

Thankfully, that's exactly what my system helps you do.

Find out what underlying beliefs are causing you trouble, and learn how to realign them to expect the reality you want:

3 powerful actions to connect with your dreams

Attaining your dream life can seem impossible, especially if you’ve worked and worked and it’s just not happening.

But there is an easier way to connect with the life of your dreams, and it has nothing to do with how many times you’ve tried and “failed.”

It’s all about frequency and our connection with the creative force that is “the source" (you might call it God, Yahweh, Allah, the Goddess - it’s all the same).

So, here are my three tips for connecting with the dream life you KNOW you deserve:

Step 1: Believe in your connection to a higher power/source. Make choices that radiate the power within you that is always connected to - and part of - the power that creates.

We are all one, and I don’t mean that figuratively. We are one with the power that creates all that is in our world and universe and whatever is beyond that.

Science has proven that there is an underlying wave nature to reality that gives birth to everything we see, feel, experience, and anything else. It’s called quantum potential, and it’s truly just potential. It’s just wave until we interact with it and allow things to pop forth from our own personal choices and the frequency of those choices.

That means that you aren’t just sitting around for things to happen to you or not. It isn’t just a game of luck or fate. You are PART of the force that creates everything in the universe.

Looking at it that way, take that power seriously. Make all your choices with the awareness that you are literally helping to create that experience. Is that an experience that you want to create? Is it one that seems like it is in alignment with the life of your dreams? Is it in experience that uplifts the world? Or depletes it?

The choice is yours. The power is yours. Use it wisely.

Step 2: Take all actions based on the frequencies matching what you desire to bring into being.

Since we are all connected to and part of quantum potential at every moment, that also means that, under it all, we are waves floating around at our own frequency and affecting the frequency of the entire universe with the actions, words, and thoughts we send out.

The frequency of those things actually affects the entire universe and what you experience in your life.

Because of that, you aren’t separate from the life of your dreams. You aren’t separate from anything you desire in your life. You can’t be, because no wave is separate from all the other waves. It’s impossible to be disconnected.

So, when you think anything, it’s a radio signal that creates a frequency that either tunes you in to the life of your dreams, or away from it. When you speak, you are creating a vibration that either resonates with all the good you want in the world, or it resonates with negativity. When you take actions, they are either of the frequency that aligns you with the life of your dreams, or away from it.

If you want to shift the quality of your life, shift your thoughts, words, and actions to be in alignment with how you would feel if you had all of that in your life right now. How would you act if you were living the life of your dreams? What would you think? What would your life look like? How would you dress?

Take actions mindfully. Take actions that align with the way you want to feel when you are living the life of your dreams. Take actions that align with how you want the world to be.

Do that over and over and you ARE aligning with the life you desire. The more you align, the more things pop into being in your life that show you that you are on the right path.

Step 3: Believe that the life you desire is already in reality, because it is. Stay steadfast in that belief. Let it flow into being however it chooses to.

One thing that I struggle with is allowing enough room in my personal goals to allow experiences that may be different than what I thought I wanted, but are, more often than not, even better.

I get an idea in my head that the life of my dreams HAS to look like this or feel like that or be like this exact thing.

You (I) gotta let go of that.

You have to set your intentions and take your actions in alignment with the general frequency of what you desire, then allow enough room to RECEIVE experiences that match that. If you are always focused on only ONE thing being THE thing, then there is no room for the universe/quantum potential/the source/a higher power to bring in things that match that frequency (and might be even more awesome!), but aren’t that exact thing.

So, sometimes stop doing. Stop focusing on only that one thing. Take a breath and know that when you align your thoughts, words, actions, and emotions with the life you desire, your desires are being co-created with the source by you and with you. They may not look exactly as you thought they would, but if you allow them, they will be exactly what you really wanted.

If you’d like to dive deeper into this, I will be opening my Manifest Your Dream Life Academy this week; it will to be totally free - it’s my gift to help more and more people raise their own frequency, life the life of their dreams, and raise the frequency of the whole world so our whole world is living better, too.

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3 Ways to Know that You Are (Finally) Ready to Make a Change

Every person has had that moment where they have decided that they just cannot put up with a situation anymore and must make a change. However, getting to that point - or finally knowing that you are ready - can be challenging. How do you know that you are ready for change? These three signs will tell you:

1. You get angry at things you used to just put up with.

Day after day, you slog along in a job you hate, dealing with a boss you despise, and working with co-workers that drive you crazy. You put up with it, telling yourself that you need the job, that it’s not that bad, that it doesn’t actually crush your soul. One day, your boss sends you yet another request for the same information you have provided 10 times before. She’s done this hundreds of times, and hundreds of times, you have begrudgingly given her what she’s asked for. This time, you can’t stand it anymore and write a furious e-mail giving her a piece of your mind.  

Not only is this possibly a career-ending move, it also lets you know that you are finally ready to make a change. While many people see anger as a negative emotion, it is often the indicator that you are finally sick of putting up with your current situation you or relationship and are ready to move on. 

For me, I can distinctly remember the moment that I knew I had to end an engagement. My fiance was yelling about God-knows-what yet again, and I was raising my voice to yell back, “Shut UP!” It dawned on me that I don’t believe in resolving conflict by yelling, yet here I was, yelling to be heard. Right then and there, I knew I needed to make a change.

Going forward today, check in with yourself. Which long-standing situations in your life are finally making you angry? What about situations that have caused anger for a long time? Make note of these, and know that you are ready to make different choices. 

2. Instead of dreaming about a new life, you begin planning for it. 

I cannot tell you how many people I work with that tell me their life dreams and then qualify them, saying things like, “I have been dreaming of this my whole life.” or “I have always wanted to do this.” Of course, right after that usually comes, “But...”

Dreaming is a wonderful and definitely necessary part of moving forward authentically in life, but too many people get stuck there. Dreams without actions just don’t come true. 

Have you begun reading books about how to do the things you dream of? Have you signed up for classes or other experiences that would assist you on your path? Have you begun creating a list of things that you need in order to be successful? Then you have taken critical steps forward. You are ready to move from dreaming to acting.

If you are at this point, you will also notice a critical shift in the way you speak about your dreams. Instead of saying, “I need to,” “I’d like to,” or “I wish I could,” you will begin saying, “I have to,” “I am ready to,” or “I am.” Notice that one set of words are “dream” or “future” words, while the others are “action” or “immediate” words. 

When you finally shift from imagining yourself in a new life to actually planning for how you can make that dream happen and speaking about those actions in the present, you know you are ready to move forward.

3. The perceived pain of making a change seems far less than the pain of staying where you are.

For many people, the pain of leaving a bad relationship or job is so intense that they just stay for years. After all, they might be miserable, but it’s better to “deal with the devil you know.” right? 

For some, I suppose it is. However, there will come a time when you literally cannot take the situation you are in anymore. Perhaps you notice that you have aches and pains, or get sick more often or more seriously than you used to. Maybe you are completely drained of energy after being on the job or with the person in question, and do not have energy to do things you love to do.

It’s at that point that the scales have swung in favor of making a change. While every major life change comes with its challenges, when the pain and exhaustion of the situation you are in has become overwhelming, you are at the critical point. If you have said to yourself, “I have to end this,” “I cannot take it anymore,” or “I am over this,” you are ready to make a change. 

Take inventory of situations in your life that are draining you or making you sick. How much more do you think you can put up with? Have you hit that critical tipping point where making a change is more appealing than putting up with more of the same? If you are at the end of your rope and feel that change is more positive than staying stuck, you are ready to make a shift!

Are you in a situation now that you need to get out of? What is the situation? Do you think you are ready to change?

How to Make Better Decisions: Why Happiness is the Best Compass of Which Direction You Should Go in Your Life.

Decision-making can be excruciating, especially if it's an especially important decision. If you are like me, your mind swirls with worry about making the “right” decision or the “best” decision, endlessly swinging between options like a pendulum out of control. You try to take every possible factor into consideration: “How will this person feel? Am I letting someone down? What will the future be like if I go this way?” (And so on, and so on, and so on...for hours or even days.)

I’m happy to report that I've finally figured out a better way to make decisions, and it's made my life a whole lot easier.

Ready for it? Here goes: 

If you’re happy, keep doing what you are doing.

If you’re not, something is not right and a new choice is needed.

Simple, right? 

Well, mostly. In order to put this into practice, we've got to define happiness. After all, if you don’t define it, it’s pretty hard to use it as a compass that guides you to your best, most fulfilling life.

So, how do you define happiness? What is the recipe for happiness?

That’s the question I started pondering one day. I thought of the happiest times in my life—some family vacations as a child, meeting my husband, our wedding day, my book tour to Romania, adopting our baby girl, the day I helped a person I cared about heal from a serious illness—and tried to figure out what the common elements were that made those events truly happy. 

Here’s what I came up with, and I think it really works: 

In all those moments, I felt truly respected and accepted for who I was. There was also a component of love, whether it was romantic, friendship, or self-love. And, there was always a sense of hope, whether it was hope for the future or hope for a new way of life or just hope in general.

That, to me, is the recipe for happiness:  Respect + Unconditional Love + Hope = Happiness. 

If you have those elements, you have happiness. If those elements are missing, something needs to change, because it’s quite likely that you are unhappy. And if you're unhappy, it can't really be the best situation for you, can it?

It really can't. If you are unhappy in a relationship, work situation, or business, it's time to make a change. End of story. 

Now, let's put it into practice...

Using the recipe for happiness to define your dreams and make the best decisions for you: 

No more sleepless nights worrying over making the right decision for you! Using the 3 elements that compose happiness—respect, unconditional love, and hope—you can KNOW that you are being guided to the right decision every time.

Go ahead; try it now. Pick a current situation that’s causing you stress or difficulty. Then, take a look at whether you are experiencing respect, unconditional love, and hope, using these questions as a guide: 

1. RESPECT 

Do you feel respected in the situation? It doesn’t matter whether it’s a personal, work, or volunteer situation, you’ll either feel like you and your ideas are respected or not. If the answer is “no,” you need to make a change.

2. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Do you feel accepted for who you are, or (to put it another way) unconditionally loved? We often think of love as only a romantic notion, but the truth is that unconditional love is an essential element for a good friendship, partnership, or even group dynamic. Unconditional love allows you to be yourself completely and to be safe to do and say what is authentic to you. Conditional love will never lead to happiness––never. So, do you feel accepted? Essentially, can you be who you really are and feel like you are safe to do so? Or do you have to hide aspects of yourself to fit in? Worse, are you put down or made fun of for core aspects of yourself? If you are not accepted in the situation, there is no path to happiness here. Make a change.

3. HOPE

Do you feel hopeful about the situation? When you wake in the morning, do you look forward to interaction with key people or experiences here, or do you dread it? As you look to the future, do you honestly—in your heart and soul, not “what you think you should be thinking”—do you honestly feel that this situation will blossom and grow in a positive way? If there is no hope, if you are weary of everything about it, if you look to the future and see only more of the same, there is no path to happiness here. It’s time to make a change. 

As you look at the situations in your life through the lens of these three aspects that compose happiness, it becomes much clearer when you should stay and when it’s time to move on. It’s also so much easier to define your dreams, because you can make decisions that head you in the direction of what REALLY makes you happy! 

By paying attention to the signs that something’s off and trusting yourself to know how to make a good decision for you, you will begin to lead yourself to a truly happy state of being and situations that are completely fulfilling.

At the end of the day, isn’t that really what we all want? 

I think it is. 

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