Setting healthy boundaries for empaths - why it's so freaking hard!

Do you find it very hard to disconnect from someone you love who is draining you?

Or to say "no" when you cannot do something, but you sense the other person's need?

Or to shut down from everything you've been feeling all day and be able to rest at night?

If so, you are like most empaths - you have a hard time having healthy boundaries.

For most of us, we've been taught that boundaries are a bad thing. In fact, if you had narcissists in your life that wanted to take all your energy and have you always ready to help them, they likely called you "selfish," "conceited," or worse when you tried to establish a healthy boundary with them.

If that happened, you likely internalized that, and now associate "healthy boundary" with "I am a selfish, horrible person for even considering such a thing."

It's time to undo that damage right now.

A boundary is simply a line drawn that indicates what is okay with you and what's not okay with you.

And, for an empath, a boundary is also "I am willing to take on this much energy from you, but I will not take that energy from you."

If you want to see why setting boundaries is so hard for us as empaths - and learn how to start setting them without feeling awful - check out my video below.

You can do this. You deserve to have healthy boundaries. You deserve to decide when you take on other's energy, pain, or issues, and when you don't want to do that.

It's not selfish. It's healthy.

Why Setting Boundaries is SO Hard for Empaths (and How to Get Some!)

Have you ever been told that you are "being mean" or "selfish" (or worse) when you finally decide that you are going to tell someone "no" who has been constantly draining your energy?

Or when you've decided that you no longer want someone's negative or toxic energy in your life?

Or when you decide that, for once, you are going to take care of yourself and NOT save someone who won't save themselves (for the 100th time)?

I have been there, done that - got a closet full of T-shirts to prove it. :) If you are an empath, I bet you do, too.

It's so freaking exhausting being an empath and having everyone want to take advantage of the fact that you care and that you WANT to help anyone and everything.

To make it worse, we often believe that because we are nice, kind people that setting boundaries IS mean or selfish, when it's truly not.

Everyone deserves to say that they simply have no more to give, or that they cannot help right then. If you don't, you will absolutely drain yourself of every drop of energy and life and maybe even money you've got to save people that will not save themselves.

It's time to stop believing everything you've been told about you having to ALWAYS be there to constantly for anything anyone could possibly need. It's time to understand how to feel the discomfort of putting up a healthy boundary, and to put it up anyway.

If you'd like more help on becoming an empowered empath, first, go take my Empath Test and see where you rate in terms of how open (or overwhelmed) of an empath you are:

Even strong people need support sometimes.

I remember a time when I was going through so much that I truly thought I would break. We had gone through our 4th or 5th failed adoption, and we had to put our beloved dog of 16 years to sleep due to an extremely fast-growing cancer that gave us just days to figure out what to do (and there was no treatment possible).

I am a person who tries to always see the bright side of things. I always look for the lesson. I always believe that even bad things are leading me to something better.

But, in that moment, I hit rock bottom. My faith shattered. My heart was broken in a way I felt was permanent. I had picked myself up and brushed myself off so many times, and I truly felt in that moment that I could not do it again. The weight of the sorrow of all of that loss was overwhelming.

I called people in my life who I believed would be supportive (and who I endlessly support), and, for perhaps the first time in my life, I said, "I am broken. I truly need help."

I'm not sure I've ever said those words before, and it was difficult to even speak them.

Their response? "You are a strong person; you'll make it through."

Not, "What can I do to help?" Not, "How can I take some of this burden?" Not, "I'm hopping on a plane and flying down there to take you in my arms and hold you up for a while..." (something I had done repeatedly for them).

And then, I didn't hear from any of them for 14 days.

And that is when I realized that, when a group unit - be it a family or friends - is used to one person being "the strong one," they cannot handle that person faltering. As a result, the strong person is never allowed to break or to need help.

And it is EXHAUSTING. So, please - check on your "strong" friends. Ask them if they need anything, and listen. Then help. Let them know that they are loved, supported, and appreciated.

If you are strong person who is dealing with pain or disease, and you’d like support and love to get through it, check out my course, Body Language: Deciphering Your Body’s Clues so You Can Heal. In there, you will get personal support from me with weekly calls, as well as understand and heal the core reasons for your pain or illness, empowering your personal strength and your best life.

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Why Setting Healthy Boundaries is SO Hard for Empaths - and How to FINALLY Get Some!

Have you ever been told that you are "being mean" or "selfish" (or worse) when you finally decide that you are going to tell someone "no" who has been constantly draining your energy?

Or when you've decided that you no longer want someone's negative or toxic energy in your life? Or when you decide that, for once, you are going to take care of yourself and NOT save someone who won't save themselves (for the 100th time)?

I have been there, done that - got a closet full of T-shirts to prove it. :) If you are an empath, I bet you do, too.

It's so freaking exhausting being an empath and having everyone want to take advantage of the fact that you care and that you WANT to help anyone and everything. To make it worse, we often believe that because we are nice, kind people that setting boundaries IS mean or selfish, when it's truly not.

Everyone deserves to say that they simply have no more to give, or that they cannot help right then. If you don't, you will absolutely drain yourself of every drop of energy and life and maybe even money you've got to save people that will not save themselves.

It's time to stop believing everything you've been told about you having to ALWAYS be there to constantly for anything anyone could possibly need. It's time to understand how to feel the discomfort of putting up a healthy boundary, and to put it up anyway.

If you'd like more help on becoming an empowered empath, first, go take my Empath Test and see where you rate in terms of how open (or overwhelmed) of an empath you are!

Then, consider signing up for my Empath Institute, where I offer you every single bit of help I can think of to allow you to live empowered, instead of exhausted!

I hope this video is a huge help to you! If it is, please like, share, and comment!