What Pain is Telling You: How to Decipher the Energetic Reasons for Hurting

"What is pain?"

"Why does it happen?" 

"Can it have an emotional connection?" 

"How can I make the pain stop?"

If you are in pain, these questions are certainly at the top of your mind. In my work, I've found that pain is always the body’s way of letting you know that something in your mind or life is seriously awry and needs changing. 

Further, it always has an important emotional connection. When you dig to the root of those two things, you can often get the pain to go away - in the body and in the life.

Help is here. 

I know you are sick of being in pain, and I want to help. 

To assist you in figuring out the message in your pain, I’ve put together a short list of common types of pain and their potential underlying meanings. However, getting to the root cause of particular pain - or, as is more often the case, pain with additional symptoms - is more complex and usually needs additional information to see the complete picture. That said, this list should trigger some "aha!" moments with the pain you are experiencing.

That said, always trust your own intuition on this; if you read a certain term or feeling and sense that it means something different to you, trust that. As I say again and again, we are all individuals, and what one things means for me may not be the same for you. It's important to honor that.

Your mind and body will tell you what is right. Always listen to it! 

Here is a short list of common pains you might feel:

• Aching Pain: Heartache, broken heart, sadness, longing.

• Stabbing Pain: Being stabbed, feeling that someone or something is stabbing you like an ice pick.

• Dull pain: Long-standing emotional pain that has been shoved deep within. Covered up pain.

• Pounding pain: Frustration or anger; much like the feeling of pounding your head into the wall in frustration.

• Searing Pain: Feeling burned by someone or something. Deep anger/rage that you do not want to acknowledge.

• Tearing/Ripping Pain: Being ripped apart at the seams. Feeling like your life or relationships are being ripped apart.

• Pain On the Left Side of the Body: Deals with a woman in your life, or, if you are a woman, can deal with something that you have put on yourself. It can also happen when you are aching to receive something in your life, whether it is a solution, money, love, or something else.

• Pain On the Right Side of the Body: Deals with a man in your life, or, if you are a man, can deal with something that you have put on yourself. It can also happen when you are aching to act on something in your life, or are unable to act on it.

• Numbness: While not a pain, it often comes right after a period of intense pain. No matter when you experience it, numbness is always associated with complete emotional blow-out - either entirely, in the case of someone who has numbness all over his body, or partially, in the case of someone who might only have right arm numbness. The area of the body that is numb will correspond to what caused the emotional blow out in the first place. No matter what kind of numbness you are experiencing, there was intense physical, mental, or emotional pain at some point, and your body’s way of protecting you is to make this numb.

Putting it Together: 

In order to decipher what your pain in particular might mean, think about the part of your body that is in pain. Seek out more information about how that part of the body should function. Then, add to that picture the type of pain it is, and the meaning behind that.

For instance, let's say you're male and have a stabbing pain in your right leg when you try to walk. What might that tell you in particular? Well, the leg's function is not only to hold you up, but also to move you forward. Since the pain is on the right side of the body, it has to do with a male in your life or with needing to take action in your life. The stabbing pain tells me that, if this is a male in your life, it feels like you are being attacked by this individual every time you want to move forward. If it's to do with taking action in your life, perhaps to start a business you are passionate about, then it would tell me that you are worried about being attacked if you come out with your real passions and move forward with this business.

As you can see, depending on the body part that is experiencing pain as well as the side of the body where it is manifesting, the meaning behind the pain can be very different. If the above example was a woman and the pain was manifesting in her left shoulder under her shoulder blade, I'd guess that a woman in her life was stabbing her in the back and she felt that she couldn't protect herself. (The shoulder blade being energetically like armor on your back.)

In looking at the pain you are experiencing, can you try to see it from a similar perspective?  

I know that it can be hard to make that shift, especially if thinking this way is new to you. In future articles and webinars, I'll teach you how to become a “Medical Detective” in your own life, recognizing the patterns and emotions that lead to specific disease. If you’d like to start translating now, check out my program, Body Language: Deciphering Your Body’s Clues so You Can Heal.

Always remember, you do not consciously cause disease. It is usually due to underlying, unconscious beliefs and patterns, and this is not your fault. Frankly, the pain and disease is the only way that your body can tell you that something is going wrong; it is the language of your body. The good news is that once you can translate what it is saying and get to the root of the issue, you can often reset the issue and healing follows.

And, please remember—get a proper medical diagnosis for anything you are dealing with. Having a proper diagnosis can help you with translating—and healing—whatever’s going on in your mind, body, and life even more. ❤️

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You are Not Your Disease: How to De-Personalize Illness and Ignite Healing

“MY allergies are killing me this year.”

“MY back pain is awful.”

“MY chronic bronchitis is getting so much worse.” 

“MY cancer is in remission. I hope it stays that way.”

Every time I hear the word “MY” attached to a pain, disease, or illness, I want to smack that word right out of the sentence. Why? Because the more you personalize an illness, the more power you give it to stick around.

Here’s why (and what to do about it): 

1. Words have frequency, and frequency creates your reality.

Scientists have proven that reality is actually just waves coming together to create that which we experience as physical life. Beyond that, my own work and research with The Flow Method has shown that the specific frequency (wavelength) of words and beliefs manifests specific pain or illnesses. 

Since every word has a unique frequency, word choice is critical to the healing process. When you personalize an illness by using words like “MY” or “I AM,” you take ownership of it; it’s literally YOURS. The more you take ownership of it, the more entrenched it becomes in your body and your reality. 

Do you really want a disease or pain to be yours? Not if you want to heal, you don’t. 

2. Disease and pain is not your identity. It’s a temporary aspect of who you are.

When people spend tons of time on health boards devoted to “their” illness, I cringe. When they sign each of their posts with their date of diagnosis, current medications, medical procedures done, and current statistics, I feel like screaming. By doing so, they’ve just made the illness their identity. 

If you want to remain sick, that’s fine. 

If you actually want to heal from said illness, it’s a problem. 

Why? Your subconscious mind believes whatever you tell it, so whatever you decide IS your identity STAYS your identity until you decide to change it.

For instance, if you identify yourself as shy, you’ll stay shy until you take action to be outgoing. If you identify as angry, you’ll stay angry until you actively decide to be calm. 

Likewise, if you identify yourself with a certain illness which your whole life revolves around, your subconscious has no reason to try to heal you; as far as it’s concerned, you are happy being ill. 

It’s this very shift in thinking that inspires life-changing organizations to help their members use present-tense terms for who they are now. For instance, most smoking cessation programs encourage members to change from saying “I am trying to stop smoking” to “I am a non-smoker.”

Notice the difference? The first sentence is still identifying with the problem and unsure of change, in the second, the change has already occurred. You are already a new identity, even in the midst of changing.

Try doing the same with any illness or pain. Shift from “I am trying to heal from…” to “I am healthy now.” Detach yourself completely from the “ill identity” or any question about your healing. You are simply healed.* 

3. Stop talking so much about it.

Have you ever been around someone who seems to only talk about their illness? Or who seems to work their illness even into conversations with strangers? 

This is not a person who has a high chance of healing. 

Just as identifying with an illness does, talking incessantly about it anchors it into your system and empowers it. Basically, you're just tuning your frequency into the illness over and over again. 

To shift to healing mode, choose to not discuss pain or illness in any interaction for the next week. Instead, focus on asking others about their lives and really listen. Take the focus of you and focus on your connection with others; you’ll be amazed how much better you feel. 

4. And stop others from talking about it, too.

If people are so used to identifying you with your illness that it’s all they ask about, learn to change the topic with kindness. Use phrases like, “Well, I’m getting there. Thanks for asking! And how is everything with you/your child/your job/whatever?” or “You know, thanks for asking, but I am trying to focus on the good things going on in my life. For instance, did you see my awesome rose bush/new car/funny pet/whatever?” 

5. If you must talk about it, use different words. 

It’s possible to talk about an illness without owning it. Let’s change the four “owning” sentences at the start of this article to “healing” sentences: 

• Owning Sentence: “MY allergies are killing me this year.”
• Healing Sentence: “Yeah, I’m currently dealing with some allergies, but they’ll go away.”

• Owning Sentence: “MY back pain is awful.”
• Healing Sentence: “Ugh, my back is really hurting. I’m going to take some time to meditate to lessen it.” 

• Owning Sentence: “MY chronic bronchitis is getting so much worse.”
• Healing Sentence: “Wow, I am having a harder time than normal breathing today. Maybe I should take some time to relax and journal about what’s making me feel constricted in my life.”

• Owning Sentence: “MY cancer is in remission. I hope it stays that way.”
• Healing Sentence: “I am so excited to be cancer-free! Now I am going to do everything I can to strengthen my body and stay healthy for good.” 

Get the shift? If you must talk about illness or pain, rewrite your sentences to send healing messages to your mind. 

More than that, focus on bringing awareness to pain or illness and choose to act in ways that show your mind that you are serious about listening to its wisdom. When you do that, you are empowering healing in your mind and body and taking responsibility for your life. 

And this is likely obvious: Never, ever use the word “MY” with an illness again. Never, ever. Got it? 

* I can hear some of you arguing, “But, I have a chronic/terminal/unfixable illness! That’s not temporary! How would this help?” I hear you, and I am not saying that, in your case, maybe the illness has really taken hold and refuses to be reversed, or maybe it’s genetic, or maybe it’s a permanent disorder. Even if that is the case, you can still decide to not be identified by your illness (for a great example of this, check out my article about a blind pole vaulter). More than that, don’t be so sure you can’t heal; I can also tell you that I have worked with many people diagnosed with chronic/terminal/unfixable illnesses and who DID heal. So, remember that might just be possible, too.

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What Nelson Mandela Reminded Me About the Power of Forgiveness (And Why You Need to Forgive, Too)

Release yourself from the prison of your anger and hurt.

I have admired Nelson Mandela since first learning of him in high school; I immediately dove into books about apartheid, South Africa, and his life story trying to understand the injustice being done there. Looking for something I could do to help, I joined Amnesty International and wrote letters asking for his release. 

Seeing the news coverage of him walking out of prison after 27 years is still as fresh in my memory as if it happened yesterday. He exuded a grace and charisma that was staggering to witness, and remained with him to the day he died.

In his life, he inspired profound change at every level. He helped to end an unjust system and rose to be President of the very country who incarcerated him. He inspired people to come together, to believe in their potential, and to look for the greater good. 

He was, in short, awesome. 

Fast forward to last week…

I had been having a really hard week; the holidays are always a time when I reflect on what could have been, should have been, or might have been, and this year was hitting me particularly hard. 

In the last couple of years, I’ve had a pretty difficult time of it with some major betrayals and massive upheavals. I thought I’d dealt with my feelings about all of it and had put it to bed, but a lot of the anger and hurt I pushed aside was suddenly coming to the surface. 

In fact, for the first time in a year, I found myself angry again about being slandered and ostracized by a start-up company that I worked 80-hour weeks to build, simply because everyone was afraid of the (massively unstable bully) woman in charge, and refused to stand behind me when I stood up to her.

I also suddenly had a surge of old feelings of violation as I thought about our beautiful home being torn up by renters, and then, right after we had gotten things looking good again, their 18 year old son breaking back in a month after they vacated and throwing a party, ruining our wood floor and the beautiful wood tables which we had built right after we were married (we still have things we are repairing from this, a year later). 

And, I was ruminating about why in the world it was necessary for us to be moved to the (extremely isolating) middle of the country in Georgia right after I had just gotten back from a beautiful book tour in Romania. It makes me feel sick that I lost the professional momentum from that amazing trip, but the amount of life upheaval at that time was just too much to try to keep up with. 

You see, I’m a person who likes to know WHY things happen, and I was feeling mad at the universe for this particular crap-storm in the last couple years, mostly because it just seemed unreasonably mean, especially when I try to do so much good. 

In short, I was feeling pretty (uncharacteristically) sorry for myself.

And then I read an article about Nelson Mandela’s passing. 

On being freed from prison in 1990, Mandela had this to say:

”As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.” 

If there was ever a wake-up call, that was it. I realized that by holding on to the anger towards those that had hurt me in the past, I was willingly a prisoner of their dungeons, and I really didn’t want to keep giving them that much power. 

Worse, this is a fact I already know—one of the main reasons I see for an illness manifesting is old emotional wounds that were never dealt with and never released. In my work, I help people release them and recover their sense of joy and wellbeing. And yet, here I was, letting all of this get to me.

And worse yet, I realized this amazing man had lost 27 years of his life being unfairly incarcerated. My difficulties hardly seemed to matter, compared to that. If he could forgive and go on to be one of the foremost moral beacons of our time, then I could certainly find it in me to let this stuff go. 

So, I’m officially releasing all of it. I’m choosing to use my own mental and emotional keys to set myself free of this prison, so I can go on to be the best teacher and helper that I can be, so maybe—just maybe—I can do 1/100th of the good Mr. Mandela did in his time on this Earth. 

What do you need to release today, so you can be the most incredible person you can be? Have you ever experienced true forgiveness? What was that like? I'd love to hear your thoughts...

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5 Ways to Get More Energy Right Now

Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? Would you like to feel more excitement, passion, and joy in life? Do you just simply desire more energy in your day?

I think we all do. In fact, with all that we do and strive to accomplish every single day, it is extremely difficult to not get run-down and worn out every so often. 

For many of us, our response to our exhaustion is to grab a seriously over-caffeinated drink and to keep on going, jitters and all. (Believe me, I have done this myself!) However, there are many easy-to-do methods to rekindle your inner fire – and naturally get more energy in your body, mind, and life.

Here are some simple tips you can implement right now to see an immediate impact on your energy levels.

Energy Tip #1: Take time to focus on the things that you are grateful for.

Do you go through your day feeling beaten up by life? Have you been overworking with little appreciation for all that you do each day? If so, it is easy to get stuck in a negative mindset – expecting that only negative thing will happen to you, and wearing out your mental state with a total focus on the bad things that seem to happen each day. However, the truth of the matter is that you have many things to be grateful for – you just need to notice them.

To do this, simply take a blank notebook or journal and designate it your “gratitude journal.” Then, each and every day, write down 5 things that you are grateful for that day.

What you will likely find in doing this simple little exercise is that you have a lot more to be grateful for in your life than you may have thought – and you will also begin to retrain your focus to see the positive that is happening in your life. When your mind is convinced that you do have good things happening in your life, you will feel less burdened – and that always allows you to have more positive energy!

Energy Tip #2: Surround yourself with images of people that you love.

How do you feel when you are with those that you love? How about when you come home from a hard day and see your spouse or partner, children, or pets? 

I am willing to bet that you feel energized – the worries of the day seem a bit farther away. So, bring that positive energy right in to your workspace! Make sure that you have pictures of the people or animals that you love, and take time to look at them throughout the day. When you do, simply say to yourself, “I am grateful for your presence in my life,” and allow that feeling of love and gratitude to flow over you. 

Energy Tip #3: Compliment someone. 

Pay attention to those around you, and offer an authentic compliment to someone. Offering a little joy to others always makes their day, and it makes your day, too. Try it and see how much better you feel by giving out a little goodness to others! 

Energy Tip #4: Get away negative people.

Really. Now. We all understand that being with negative, critical people is nothing but trouble for not only our energy levels, but for creating a better life. After all, the more that you are tuned in to a negative frequency, the more negativity you will bring in to your life. 

It is for your best that you limit your interaction with negative people. Find ways to avoid those that are negative, and to be with those that are positive – and notice how much better you feel as a result!

Energy Tip #5: Dream.

What do you really want to do or be? Take 5 minutes to write down exactly what you really desire in your life, and then visualize yourself doing and being that very thing. Make this experience as real as possible, imaging every detail, such as what you will be wearing, how you will feel, what others will be saying or doing, any scents or smells that will be part of this experience, and anything else you think would make the experience real for you. 

After you are done, notice the amount of energy in your body – it is truly amazing what just a few minutes of dreaming will do for you! Better yet, every time that you do this, you tune your mind in to this very reality, allowing that experience to flow right to you! 

Do you have other tips that help you to get more energy when you are feeling low? Please share them with me! 

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